Spiritual Stylism (English Version)

#81 What you bring into a space becomes the space...

In this episode we explore how our presence shapes the atmosphere around you far beyond words. We all have a huge impact with what we emanate and therefor a responsibility for it. "Waking up", becoming more aware of your inner world, becoming conscious of your patterns is not  something you are just doing for yourself, you are influencing everything in the field with it. "Healing" yourself creates a better life for everyone around you, not just for yourself. The question is simple, are you part of the problem or the solution? Is there something more important than dedicating yourself to this?

#80 We can only meet each other as deeply as we have met ourselves....

Real connection is not created by saying the right things or trying to fix each other. It grows from inner capacity, from the ability to stay fully present with emotions, uncertainty and truth. A kind of presence that does not rush to solve, analyze or change, but allows clarity and healing to emerge naturally. Your own inner journey shapes the quality of your relationships. If you haven´t faced your own shadows, you will be likely  overwhelmed by another human being expressing their emotions, as your own suppressed ones get triggered in that moment. The deepest gift we can offer another person is not an advice, it's the trust in their greatness, their capability, their own divine guidance and to remain while they walking through the fire. 

#79 Neuroplasticity is the biological proof that we are creators....

Your true being knows that you are not here on this planet to function and perform, but to experience life as a creative process through you as an active and conscious creator. Neuroplasticity is more than a scientific term, it is for me the biological evidence that we actively shape our lives, whether unconsciously or consciously. So in every human being lies the ability to create reality and that with this knowledge is no longer a mystical metaphor, this is a scientific fact. How can we play small any longer, let the past dictate the future wich means continuing living from automated programs? HERE, NOW and TODAY, at this specific moment, you can rewrite your future. Is it easy? No it is not, but of course it is possible and the difference between living your unlimited power and existing as a prisoner in the Matrix. My question to you is: "Are you ready to take full responsibility for your power and your greatness"?

#78 When we truly enjoy our body, we create abundance...

The body is innocent, it simply reflects the state we are living in. If we live in survival all the time (sometimes without even realizing, as we are so used to the state in our nervous system ) we are emanating lack into the field. The body craves the familiar chemistry like adrenaline and cortisol and often people are only feeling "alive" and awake when running on survival. Peace, regulation, stillness feels boring to them, as the body is already addicted to these stress hormones and craves them,  so we are re-creating the past over and over again by giving the body the same experience in slightly different versions. This is what people call their live and don't know about their power to change their reality. Pleasure, joy, playfulness is healthy "food" for the body, it creates new experiences and safety. So taking care of yourself by following your intuition,  beyond any "healthy concepts" suggested by completely different people with different bodies will give you everything you desire. Beauty, pleasure, joy, bliss...all of these higher states need a regulated state in the nervous system, otherwise they are not accessible, as in danger and survival it´s time to run and fight and not feeling joy and bliss. Ask yourself during the day, what do I feel in my body at the moment and what do I emanate...to become more conscious about your state and see it as an information what you actually create at the moment. 

#77 The moment of choice. Creating a new reality in the middle of a trigger...

Transformation does not mean the old pattern disappears. It means we can see it, and still choose to not react in the old way. Many of us are working with manifestation, vision boards, and affirmations. We set intensions, imagine new possibilities, and focus on the life we want to create. All of this is wonderful, creative and brings hopefully a lot of fun into your life while you are doing this. Real transformation happens in the trigger, the moment when our nervous system activates old survival patterns. The trigger (we suddenly feel attacked, overwhelmed, not seen, unsafe etc.) then feels like the problem, but what if the trigger is actually the portal? A portal into unconscious patterns stored in our nervous system but also a portal into our power and liberation. A gateway to old patterns and suppressed emotions that have now worked their way up to the surface to be felt and released. If we already have built capacity in our nervous system to pause und breathe, rather than being reactive, we have the choice to choose consciously how we actually would like to respond in alignment with our vision and not from autopilot.  This is the moment of choice, where we are becoming aware of what comes up (the urge to fight, to defend, to withdraw, control etc.) and we allow it to be there and still choose differently. This is leaving the victim state (unconscious creation out of survival) and becoming the conscious creator. 

#76 The Stillness within, what holds when everything moves in you....

Through an intense, real moment of activation, I experienced what it means to stay completely present while my nervous system went into a strong panic mode, and how something deeper in me continued to hold "me" in safety and guided me back into the parasympathetic state. This is self-leading, this is power, this is how we can overcome the old programs that running us. If we are able to not identify with whatever is activated, we realize that our true self, the I AM is bigger than any state that appears in our consciousness.  

#75 From Amazon to Queen, your core as the vessel for your embodied sovereignty...

Our "core" is our inner holding system, it is our body centre, for me the tangible connection between "heaven and earth" in our physical vehicle. Feeling this inner strength automatically lifts us up, we feel safe and allow ourselves to truly take up space and expand.  Speaking from the core, means expressing the heart felt truth, because even the voice (our expression) has something to do with a strong core. If we strengthen it and pay attention to it, we have a strong vessel that carries us through life. For me, the gentle and steady strengthening of my inner holding system was such a catalyst for regulation, strength and presence, that from this new embodiment incredible gifts have come into my life, because only then was I able to receive and hold them safely in me.
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#74 Sacred Rage, when dignity becomes non negotiable...

On our journey there comes a moment where we no longer fight for connection but living truth and dignity. It is the fire that rises when self betrayal becomes unbearable. This is the warrior archetype in a woman when she reaches a state where she is letting go of the self image to be  "easy to handle", always loving and compassionate, having endless tolerance,  just to make sure she is not risking attachment. This is not living real feminine energy, this is pretending to be someone who accepts bread crumbs and never really showing your core self and be a flag in the wind. This is not authenticity, this is a role out of survival. 

#73 Performance is Survival! Play is Power!

The woman who plays is alive, truthful and authentic, she allows life to express itself completely through her. The woman who "performs", is in a fight with life, she manipulates, controls and holds herself together, and lives with immense tension. For divine playing, wich is being in the "flow state", we need safety in our nervous system and sometimes performing looks like playing, but it is not, as we "play" to achieve something. Playing happens in the NOW, is spontaneous, is real, is free, is innocent, has no intention. To be able to distinguish between these two different states requires embodiment and awareness for micro-tension, for the moment when we leave ourselves internally and focus on the outside to please, to control, to gain security, etc. The closer we get to ourselves, the clearer it will become to you when you are really awake and play with life, and when you "perform" from one of the many roles that you have acquired over time and with which you protect yourself. These roles are often completely invisible to the outside as well as to ourselves, but their frequency comes from lack and uncertainty and we cover something up that we think is not acceptable or lovable. We pretend to be something that we are not and thus separate ourselves from the world and our fellow human beings in an often very subtle and hardly perceptible way.

#72 True femininity comes from within, and is not something you can DO...

This episode is specifically for women who identify with their feminine core in this incarnation. Time and time again, the question arises: “How can I be more feminine? What do I need to DO? How should I dress, move, speak, and so on?” The truth is that you can grow long hair, dress very femininely, move sensually, speak deeply and calmly, and still not be embodied in your femininity. This is because all of these things arise naturally when we, as women, stop living in survival mode. Femininity lives in a regulated nervous system, beyond any survival program. From this place, true femininity emerges and expresses itself uniquely through each woman, just as every flower is uniquely beautiful. Every woman carries this wisdom within her, and it unfolds in a completely natural way when we move from fighting into receiving.