Spiritual Stylism (English Version)

#74 Sacred Rage, when dignity becomes non negotiable...

On our journey there comes a moment where we no longer fight for connection but living truth and dignity. It is the fire that rises when self betrayal becomes unbearable. This is the warrior archetype in a woman when she reaches a state where she is letting go of the self image to be  "easy to handle", always loving and compassionate, having endless tolerance,  just to make sure she is not risking attachment. This is not living real feminine energy, this is pretending to be someone who accepts bread crumbs and never really showing your core self and be a flag in the wind. This is not authenticity, this is a role out of survival. 

#73 Performance is Survival! Play is Power!

The woman who plays is alive, truthful and authentic, she allows life to express itself completely through her. The woman who "performs", is in a fight with life, she manipulates, controls and holds herself together, and lives with immense tension. For divine playing, wich is being in the "flow state", we need safety in our nervous system and sometimes performing looks like playing, but it is not, as we "play" to achieve something. Playing happens in the NOW, is spontaneous, is real, is free, is innocent, has no intention. To be able to distinguish between these two different states requires embodiment and awareness for micro-tension, for the moment when we leave ourselves internally and focus on the outside to please, to control, to gain security, etc. The closer we get to ourselves, the clearer it will become to you when you are really awake and play with life, and when you "perform" from one of the many roles that you have acquired over time and with which you protect yourself. These roles are often completely invisible to the outside as well as to ourselves, but their frequency comes from lack and uncertainty and we cover something up that we think is not acceptable or lovable. We pretend to be something that we are not and thus separate ourselves from the world and our fellow human beings in an often very subtle and hardly perceptible way.

#72 True femininity comes from within, and is not something you can DO...

This episode is specifically for women who identify with their feminine core in this incarnation. Time and time again, the question arises: “How can I be more feminine? What do I need to DO? How should I dress, move, speak, and so on?” The truth is that you can grow long hair, dress very femininely, move sensually, speak deeply and calmly, and still not be embodied in your femininity. This is because all of these things arise naturally when we, as women, stop living in survival mode. Femininity lives in a regulated nervous system, beyond any survival program. From this place, true femininity emerges and expresses itself uniquely through each woman, just as every flower is uniquely beautiful. Every woman carries this wisdom within her, and it unfolds in a completely natural way when we move from fighting into receiving.

#71 The invisible break up. How attachment patterns pull us out of intimacy.

Isn’t it fascinating that as soon as we are genuinely touched in a relationship and our heart begins to open, old, suppressed “treasures” from our unconscious rise to the surface? Real closeness reaches the parts of us that were challenging and overwhelming in our earliest childhood. An encounter that truly opens our heart can act like a catalyst for integration, if we have the courage to turn inwards and are able to stay with whatever arises. There is a lot we can do for ourselves without being in a relationship, regulating our nervous system (expanding our capacity to sit in the discomfort of being triggered for example), understanding our patterns, and so on. But what is ultimately needed is another person. Understanding things on a mental level and then being faced with them in real life are two very different levels of integration. What was “wounded” in relationship also needs to be “healed” in relationship. We need new, nourishing experiences in order to overwrite the old adaptive model that no longer serves us, wich is our attachment pattern. With enough self aware-ness, an understanding of our hidden self sabotaging programs, a heart that keeps opening, and a nervous system that can hold a wider range, we can bring heaven to earth, instead of unconsciously continuing to fight what we deeply long to live.

#70 Receiving is our birthright. In receiving, we remember that we are held, guided, and deeply loved.

Do you know that feeling that giving is easier than receiving? Not out of generosity, but because giving seems to give us a sense of control. Receiving requires surrendering. The body stops holding on, stops fighting, and sinks into life itself. True receiving is quiet, natural, and genuinely sustaining, and often we are no longer even consciously aware of it, because it has not been experienced for many generations. Receiving marks the end of the struggle for survival and the beginning of a life lived in abundance and trust.

#69 Sacred Polarity, a dance of opposites held in wholeness....

If we want to live sacred polarity in a relationship, then it needs two layers of safety. It takes the inner safety in both nervous systems AND the safety within the relationship itself. We cannot open up and hold tension if we are not safe in ourselves, nor if the relationship is not a stable and protected field. Without safety in us, we cannot hold tension and intensity and without stability in the relationship, we cannot really open up, surrender and receive. It takes two mature and integrated adults who are whole and complete in themselves, free from dependencies to live a love in polarity, rather than in compensation, where one is carrying and regulating an aspect of the other. This is not love, this is regulation. 

#68 The two movements of life - Masculine & Feminine as inner maturity...

In this episode, we dive into the essence of the masculine and feminine, not as roles or identities, but as living forces, as inner movements that work through us. When we as women have integrated our male energy, something quiet and at the same time powerful is created, an inner support. We become clear, present and self-supporting. Our inner space opens up, a kind of container that holds us. From this inner capacity we become truly receptive. Not out of lack, not out of need, but out of openness, because we already have wholeness within us. And only then can the masculine in the outside truly give, because we no longer pull, but remain within ourselves. We no longer need anyone to carry or hold us, but we choose to be held, because we simply enjoy to be a woman and that also brings the man into his power because it is the natural order in polarity. Old dynamics, dependencies are dissolving. We meet the masculine from our inner strength, awake, free and conscious and just from there we can really embrace all of it, because we have integrated the masculine within us. We can relax outside into it and no longer have to fear it or put it on a pedestal, wich has nothing to do with love, it´s a survival program and dependancy. From our own inner strength we are soft, nourishing, sensual, devoted, receptive without losing ourselves. Only then does healthy polarity arise. And of course, this is just as true for men. The more integrated a man’s inner feminine is, the more present, grounded, and powerful his masculinity becomes. He no longer seeks a mother nor a woman who submits or idolises him. He chooses a companion. A partner on equal ground to create with. Not from lack or inner fragmentation, but because he wishes to consciously embody his masculinity and there for he chooses a woman who is grounded in her primal feminine power.  Maturity emerges here as well, when direction and feeling, structure and aliveness, come together within. When the masculine and feminine no longer compete, but support one another we can live the sacred union. 

#67 The inner split in creation: When consciousness moves faster than the nervous system...

Why clarity initially overwhelms the body and how integration really happens. We decide on a new version of ourselves and are crystal clear in our focus. At first, we are completely convinced, we feel the high of the new creation, and that generates uplifting hormones in our system. We are deeply convinced of what we want to live and highly motivated, we are a mission, until, usually after a few days, our first defense mechanisms kick in and resistance emerges. Our old self does not let go so easily; it does EVERYTHING to keep us in the old, this is his job. Why this always happens when we expand, grow, and rebirth ourselves, and why it is a logical part of creation. This purging phase is essential and usually a bit messy :-). 
 

#66 The "King & the Queen", the frequency as a bridge into the sacred union....

The frequency of these archetypes can serve us as a kind of transitional space, as a bridge into the embodiment of the aspects and frequencies of these fields. They serve as energetic placeholders and then fall away from us when we have integrated and embody this level of maturity. They are a kind of orientation to rise from the survival mode of the "wounded girl and wounded boy" into the whole. Here it is not about the outer crowning, but the inner expansion into this level of maturity, about growth, about wholeness, about consciousness.

#65 The universe rewards every step towards authenticity with a clear response...always...

How can we bring real change into our lives? Away from reactive behaviour (old identity), towards new conscious choice from the energy of conscious creation of what you choose to embody. This is not a mental process (the mind is of course a part of the whole process), it's a physical process, as we have to embody the frequency of this new state, before is has even manifested. As so often, your nervous system plays a crucial role in this. It takes security within us to "allow" new paths and to close old tracks.  How can you step by step, in the Here and Now, in your everyday life, with every breath let go of what you no longer want to live and embody what you really choose, what truly corresponds to your essence?